It’s safe to say that no aspect of your life is the same now as it was before you had children. From simple things like leaving the house or going to the toilet to much larger events such as Valentine’s Day, you’re already aware that you need to change your expectations for a lot of your life.
However, having a newborn or older baby in tow doesn’t mean that you need to minimise the romance this February 14th; it just means that you need to find new ways to celebrate love – even if there are 3 or more of you.
This could not be easier (or cheaper for that matter). All you need is yourselves, your sofa, some popcorn and other snacks and a film or a set of films.
Admittedly, trying to get an older baby or toddler to sit through a film is easier said than done, but with older children or a young baby, this is a great way to spend the time. Just ensure everyone is happy with the choice, or happy to compromise and you’re ready to greet Hollywood.
A feast to remember
You might not be getting the table service at the 5* restaurant of your choice, but that doesn’t mean you have to forego good food. You can set the table, insist everyone dresses up for dinner and go with the menu of your choice. It could be a takeaway if you’re feeling like a break, a favourite family meal or a new dish for something completely new and different.
You could even get the posh glasses out…
My daughter was 2 months old on valentines day, deciding that a posh meal out was out of the question we opted for a night in Matlock Bath and Fish & Chips. It was really lovely and romantic, we had a great time.
There are thousands of memes and articles dedicated to telling you how bad screen time is for your family’s health and your relationships so why not ditch the screens for a whole day or night? Banning the television, games, phones and tablets means you get to focus on each other and enjoying your together time. Playing games or talking between you is a great way to connect as a family. You could even share with your older children the stories of how you met and show them your wedding pictures or video.
An at home spa
You know that new parents need a bit of pampering. In fact, as you’re sitting reading this with matchsticks propping open your eyes, you’re probably crying out for some pampering, so why not make an at-home spa. You can create it in the bathroom where you soak (with or without the children), the kitchen where you paint nails or give makeovers, or the bedroom where you put on facemasks.
Of course, having children doesn’t mean you have to hole yourself up in your home and never leave. Dining with your children can be a wonderful experience assuming you plan it properly. They might not like the fancy food you’ll prefer but as long as you find a place they’re welcome at, a menu that caters for them and some entertainment to keep them busy, there’s no reason why you can’t be enjoying a fancy meal that you don’t have to clean up after!
I would love to know what you have mind for this Valentine’s Day.